Are You Listening?

One of the most significant barriers to relationships is the failure to listen. It is impossible to effectively relate to others if we’re not listening. When we do listen, relationships come to life. Listening makes us feel heard, understood, valued, loved. The power and effect of listening is terribly underestimated and, as a result, most of us aren’t very good at it. How can we learn to listen in ways that bring life to our relationships?

Discussion Questions

Who is the best listener you know? How do you feel about that person? What level of trust do you have with them?

Can you think of a time when you really felt heard? What difference did it make for you? Can you think of a time when you felt like your voice didn’t matter? How did that affect you?

Read Luke 10:38-42. Compare the choices of Martha and Mary. What are some things we can learn about the value of and obstacles to listening from this moment in Jesus’ ministry?

In the sermon this week one of the principles was “If you don’t listen, you have have to feel.” How have you experienced this in your life?

Read Luke 9:28-36. What is the Father’s message to the disciples? How do you think this message can help us to learn to be better listeners?

What is God speaking to you about right now? What is He saying that you need to listen to?

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