Family: A Holiday Balancing Act friend and I were recently discussing our plans for the upcoming Thanksgiving holiday. I mentioned that in years past, we would typically spend it at home, with an open invite to my husband’s extended family (mother,...
Just Like Our Father Therefore be imitators of God, as beloved children.Ephesians 5:1 y husband recently traveled for work, leaving me home alone with our three children. He very rarely travels, and my almost four-year-old daughter has been potty...
Numbering Our Days Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom. Psalms 90:12 oth of my little boys lost a tooth last month and in an instant, their smiles were different. When it happened, each held their tiny tooth in their...
If therapy is a way to better understand who we are and why we feel what we feel, there is never a wrong time to seek it. Seeing a therapist can be done proactively when stressful events are on the horizon and/or reactively in times of mental struggle. We can seek therapy as a port in a storm, or even simply as a way to touch base with our emotions to keep us running on track.
Most importantly, therapy functions as a time set aside solely to focus on ourselves. It is a time to hear things in a different way and express things it can be hard to admit anywhere else. Romans 12:2 notes that we should not “be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God.”
True, you will not find the words “personal boundary” in the Bible. But the Bible does discuss personal boundaries in principle. In fact, each time the Bible talks about areas of your life that you are solely responsible for, or instructs that you say “yes” to something good and “no” to something bad, or when the Bible reminds us that our true identity in Christ is separate than our identity in the world – this is touching on the importance of personal boundaries. Personal boundaries are what define our identity. Imagine them as property boundaries around your home. They exist so that we have a safe space that is clearly designated: this is who I am, what I value, what I need, what I believe, what I feel.
Simply put, we can’t. I believe there is no right answer to how we choose to navigate these uncertain times. We can only make decisions that are best for the health and welfare of ourselves and our families based on what we currently know. But Ephesians 4:14-15 reminds us that the process of maturing as a Christian is similar to the process of gaining knowledge in the natural world. As Christians, we “mature” until we are “no longer infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching.”
This is undoubtably a time of discomfort and unrest in our nation. We are far from prisoners in a German concentration camp and our homes are not crawling with wingless insects, but like Corrie, many of us may be struggling to give thanks for the current circumstances.
But fortunately, we are the children of a God who understood that we would struggle, and thus He made His directions very clear: Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.
Despite the disappointments of this season, remember that God works all things together for good—both His good and our good. The promise that God works all things together for good does not mean that we will acquire all that we want or desire. But those who love God can trust His goodness, His power, and His will to work out all things for our good. We journey together with Him.
So many of us are getting through this time by focusing on the day when things go back to how they were, but what if God has a different plan? What if He’s using this time to do a new thing? To create a new normal? One where appreciating His beauty and blessings is the thing we wake up most excited to do every day?